Intelligent Choice: Green Over Greed

Can we trade in global Greed for global Greening?

I believe this Corona Virus is intelligent. What if it was put in our pathways on the planet as an agent of change. Stopped in our tracks, we may be forced to reconsider our values.

Apart from the toilet paper hoarding, I'm hearing many more folks sharing stories of kindnesses extended to them and from them to others. I hear the difficulties of being separated from dear ones, difficulties paying for food stuffs when money is not coming in, and how hard it is to stay in the house. Our priorities as humans are to connect, to share love, to hang with our tribe.

We have so many modern conveniences, perhaps we've lost sight of the truly important values: Clean air, fresh water, healthful foods, and human companionship.

For too long corporations have been trying to get rich any which way they can, and compromising our lives as a result. When you foul your own nest, it is not intelligent. When you poison your waters, pollute your air, kill your oceans, and forever change the topography of the landscape by scraping off the tops of the mountains to get what's underneath, it’s likely you're not going to live very long.

Oil, that some First Nations people consider to be the Mother's blood, is not to be burned. It darkens the skies. It heats the planet's atmosphere. She gets angry. She is showing us, by throwing Corona Virus Disease - 19 at us so she may slow us down to appreciate the beauty we stand to lose.

My twenty-five-year-old nephew lives in Los Angeles. He has asthma. On a good day, he says he could run a mile before being short of breath. Since the Shelter In Place order forced everyone inside and we all stopped driving and flying, Nephew says he was shocked a few days ago when he ran four-and-a-half miles before realizing he could breathe with ease! NO POLLUTION! What a concept!!! The only thing that stopped him from running further was that his legs hurt! Not his lungs!!

I remember during the 1984 Olympics in Los Angeles, the Peruvian runners had an advantage because they lived at ten to twelve-thousand feet above sea level and were accustomed to a perpetual lack of oxygen in their thin air. What a travesty to sully our air so badly - on purpose! - so we get less oxygen at sea level!

As a kid growing up in LA, I remember every summer afternoon we kids would feel pain in our chests after playing outside. We called it "the Hack."  It was the LA smog blackening our lungs. By the time we turned twenty, the Air Quality Control Board of Los Angeles said each child who grew up in the city had lung damage equivalent to a twenty year smoker with a two-pack-a-day habit.

In her well researched tome, "Blowout," Rachel Maddow asserts that the oil and gas companies of this nation were given a 27.5% tax relief package in 1920, when Woodrow Wilson was president. Never changed or amended, it is the longest running welfare package in the history of our nation. Oh, also, our domestic oil companies have none other than themselves to regulate their actions here and around the world.

The Exxon Valdez spill in Alaska in 1989 was a disaster for wildlife. To "clean it up" Exxon dumped 5,500 gallons of a chemical dispersant on it. When it was determined that  British Petroleum's Deep Water Horizon mess  in April of 2010 was pouring more than 1,000 barrels of oil a day, (more than four million gallons total), into the Gulf of Mexico, BP threw 300,000 gallons of dispersant into the Gulf as well. Turns out both oil and dispersant are toxic to wildlife and to humans. 

At the mouth of the Nigerian Delta, off the coast of Africa, Exxon has placed drilling rigs, which it self-regulates. Sadly, their rigs are leaking eleven million gallons of oil per year. That's the equivalent of one Exxon Valdez disaster per year leaking oil into the Nigerian Delta. 

Rex Tillerson, head of Exxon, told a senate hearing, after the Deep Water Horizon fiasco, "We're not well equipped to handle [major spills.]" Maddow asks: If not you, WHO??

The people in Wuhan China, the epicenter of the current pandemic, are seeing blue skies again for the first time in decades. No one has been able to work because the cunning CoVid 19 bug stopped them in their tracks. The factories are not pumping pollutants into the air! No wonder the virus attacks lungs. It wants us to pay attention to the damage we're doing to the air quality world wide. Animals need fresh air too. We are animals. Let us acknowledge that we are addicted to fossil fuels. Let us voluntarily keep the Shelter-In-Place ideal at least one day a week and vote to hold Big Oil accountable for cleaning up its messes, and speed the transition to clean energy. Perhaps our reward will be to see how we might slow or even reverse the rapid fouling our nest!

Clearly the POTUS Trump has no idea what this is all about. Oligarchs, in general, have no idea about anything except money. The Donald has only one thought: “How can I make the best deal... for ME?” 

According to our (               ) leader, this C-19 scare was a hoax promoted and thought up by the democrats. It wasn't real until his handlers finally took him to the corner of the ring and talked him into READING the teleprompter. Even then, he ad-libbed and called it "the Chinese Virus." Scum bag. Racist PIG. I get so angry at his racism, misogyny, divisive tactics, and for discounting the severity of this world-wide health challenge. Think of the wasted time, and opportunities to squelch the disease in its tracks in Washington State, this country's epicenter, because the bully in his pulpit in Washington DC, on the other side of the country discounted the science. His base, having tasted the Kool-Aid, swallowed this pronouncement too, acting as if the Corona Virus is not as contagious and deadly to some as it is.  

AAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!! 

No wonder it's been so healing to do aerobic weeding in my back yard with a vengeance this week as I shelter in place. It's so satisfying to imagine I'm pulling orange hairs out by the roots off the head of the scariest leader I've known in my lifetime. I wasn't alive when Hitler was in charge of Germany, nor when Mussolini ruled in Italy. Now, we have MOUSSE-olini, as my husband calls him. And he's a holy terror terrorizing anyone who disagrees with him or doesn't like the taste of his Kool-Aid.

Peter Alexander is a good reporter. He got ripped a new one by the POTUS for asking a legitimate question which riled up The Donald so bad, that he spewed puke green vitriol and luminous venom on the gentleman. I HATE the Donald.

Several Republican Senators are out ill with the virus and unable to vote. Will Mitch McConnell poison the Donald to save the GOP? Will Pence ride into the Whitehouse in the vacuum? And will he perhaps be defeated by Biden in November? 

Will we be any better off? 

Hoping for GREEN to triumph over GREED!

We may need to take the reins into our own hands at local levels of government.

Happy Hunkering to you. May all be well.

Corvids are Birds, Covid 19 Has Gone Viral

Human BE-ing? Or Human DO-ing?

What an opportunity to find out how it is to be the former!

EVERYthing has been cancelled or postponed, right? That memorial service, the birthday party, movie night, volunteer gigs, family camp weekends, even church, f' Christ's sake! 

Hunkering down, at first, seems daunting... what will we do if we two are the only ones we'll be seeing for weeks on end? 

Sure there's the occasional foray out to the grocery store with its empty shelves, the chance meeting of a neighbor on the street. 

Let's call it physical distance instead of social distance, shall we? So many opportunities to commune on line... if we're of a mind to do so. Just tonight, a friend started up a Zoom meet-up to play some fun word games together on-line. 

I know several octa-and nonagenarians who don't go online any more, or who never have. Nothing beats an in person visit, right? A friend with cancer whom I saw last Tuesday was scheduled to have a farewell party before ending her life by doctor sanctioned cocktail at the end of the week. Trouble is the residential home where she's living won't let more than five people gather in one place, due to the virus scare, so we figured we'd stand under her balcony, singing to her before her party-pooping exit. Rains kept that from happening. Not sure what the plan is now.

Church happened today in an empty sanctuary. All who wanted to could access the service online in a series of visual and auditory YouTube segments.  Echoing video of both reverends welcomed us from the pulpit, their speech bouncing off the back wall. They gave the sermon, sang a hymn, and led us in the Charge at the end. The organist played the chimes as call to worship and the postlude. One of the "Godly Play" teachers changed the felt pointer on the calendar indicating it's the third Sunday of Lent. She read a story for the kidlets. It felt like virtchurch. No donation plates were passed. No coffee and cookies were served in the family room afterwards. I feel for the folk whose social life is so wrapped up in the body of this house of worship. Not even coffee shops are open around here. We're homebound thanks to Corona.

It's been a rainy weekend. Crows swoop and play, glinting brightly in sudden sun between downpours at mid-day, then look like punctuation on back-lit clouds at sunset. Corvids include ravens and crows. These beautiful birds are not to be confused with the current Covid 19 virus which has gone viral. Such a teeny tiny critter on the planet is causing such HUGE problems for humans all over! What are we to learn from this episode? What are the possible lessons?

One: Don't dismantle the government. We may need those offices in working order one day!

Two: How calming it is to the nervous system to hunker happily at home from time to time. No agenda. No place to go. No assignments. No obligations. Nothing to fix except maybe dinner. 

What was that book I started reading and never finished? What's the next chapter to write in the book I've been dawdling on getting done? When was the last time I spoke to that friend in Virginia? How long has it been since I had "tea" with a friend in Southern California? SereniTEA is a joy. 

The most distressing part of this unexpected journey, for me, apart from thinking about those who don't have shelter, medical care, or regular meals, is not seeing our granddaughter. Her daddy is bad scared. He's secreted his daughter away at his house behind a locked gate and is not willing to let us see her unless we're fourteen days into isolation after being in any crowds. She is missing her mother too. Her mama started her isolation for fourteen days after the school where she teaches closed on Friday the Thirteenth. It will be one month all told that the two won't see one another. When you're teaching kindergarten, your student's faces begin to look like petrie dishes - with green rivers of snot being wiped on backs of hands. I get it. It makes sense to be tested or to self-isolate. Yet, the ex-son-in-law began isolating prematurely, I believe. Survivalist mentality gives him an adrenaline surge which may push rationality to the side. It's good to be able to use texting as a communication channel with the grandie. She seems to be surviving alright. She's taught me a lot about making stickers and avatars on the iPhone. She's got quite a sense of humor. We enjoyed being virtually in one another's company yesterday as we watched "golden hour" together via text. Gorgeous skies come with this rain!

Being in the moment is cozy. 

Doing too much is draining and ultimately unproductive. I heard someone forty years ago expound on what she called the violence of over-activism.  I can see her point. Maybe the take-away lesson for me with this Covid deal is to create and truly honor a sabbath... a time to do NOTHING but recharge the batteries. Take a lesson from the crows: When skies are beautiful go out and soar!

Lasts

Intimacy with the dying process began early in my life. The hills of Echo Park, North West of downtown Los Angeles, were filled with life. Bugs, horned toads, lizards, beautiful gopher snakes, and deadly rattlers were home there. Coyotes were rarely seen, but we heard them. Hoot owls were a sweet gift along with the distant sounds of the train yards down in Frog Town by the Los Angeles River. Each wild life was out to eat another wild life. We kids in those hills sometimes found remnants here and there of prey.

Our house's slab floor was level with both yards front and back. A hill behind the glass and redwood rectangle ended in the back yard, and a hill sloping down from the front yard meant that when it rained hard enough to saturate the back grass, the water would seek the lowest level, flowing through the house and down the front hill. We'd end up with an inch-and-a-half to two inches of rainwater throughout the house. Copper tubing in the smooth red-cement gave off radiant heat in winter. My mom was very relaxed and would invite the neighbors in to go wading through the warm floodwaters. Just don't touch the stereo or refrigerator. You could get a nasty shock. My brother reminded me, with a gleam in his eye, “You could die!”

Black widow spiders, scorpions, and centipedes were frequent residents or visitors. We learned to watch where our fingers were while looking for dropped pencils or such, so as not to be surprised by a bite or unexpected sting.

Dad was bitten by a black widow while sleeping in bed one night. He was terribly sick but only hospitalized for one day so the doctor could cut out the venom effected (necrotic) parts and stitch him back up.

Fear of death came before actual loss of pets and people dear to me.

Twins across the way, Peter and Angelika, were nine years old when their mother Edith was diagnosed with a rare form of kidney disease. She died when we were all ten years old.

Alone on the beach at ten, after Dad had left my mom, I found a small butterfly clam on the sunset-reflecting wet sand. My curious fingers wanted to see the creature inside its beautiful bi-valve shell. My determination and ignorance tore the little muscle as it tried to stay closed. I was so, so sorry I didn't know it would die if opened from the outside.

I was thirteen when my step father's mom died. Too afraid to look into the open casket, I created horrible nightmares for myself for more than a year. My vivid imagination provided ghastly images of how Sonya looked in there. I was afraid to fall asleep with my hands over my torso. Far worse than any reality could've been, Sonya’s death taught me to trust reality as a teacher rather than my conjectures.

My father died the summer I was sixteen. I drove myself once a week to Long Beach Veteran's Hospital to see him. From Echo Park to Long Beach was a very long drive, since Mom wouldn't let me take the freeways. Cancer of the everything, aorta, lungs, liver, spleen, and pancreas put him into a coma. The doctors said he had six months to live. He lasted three. I'd sit and hold his hand and wonder what was going on in his mind, if anything. Was it beautiful? Was it Hell?

About that time, my Aunt Nora had two mama cats, Alice and Moustache. Both had four kittens each within a few days of each other. They used to cross-nurse the eight of them. They were so darling, and my aunt and uncle's house was a good stopping point on my way home. New life was a wonderful and welcomed diversion from the grief and confusion over my father’s impending death. One day Nora found one of the kittens dead in the back yard and put it in a shoe box and buried it. Those mama cats mewled and howled looking everywhere for that missing kitten. Nora guessed Alice and Moustache needed to see it, so she dug-up the kitten coffin, lifted the lid and watched as those mama cats licked the wee fluff ball from the tip of its pink nose to the tip of its fuzzy tail. Then, they looked at each other and walked away. Auntie re-buried the box. Those wise four-leggeds taught me the importance of goodbyes.

Five years ago, when we first moved to Oakland, I reached out to a friend with whom I'd assisted Somatic Experiencing trainings for thirteen years. He lived in my new town and I invited him to coffee. Not yet. Something's goin' on he said. Two weeks later, same conversation. Then he showed up for an open house we held so we could meet our new neighbors, see Bay Area family, and I could welcome my old SE buddies to our new home in the hood. Marc came and left in about three minutes. I could see he'd lost a lot of weight since I'd seen him a year or so before. He did not look well and he did not stay. A few weeks later he shared his diagnosis with me: Stage four colon cancer. He asked me to be part of his caring team. Of course, I said yes.

Marc taught me grace under fire as cancer raged through and ravaged him from the inside out. We, his team, watched the poignancy of all his lasts. Last walk at sunset, last shower, which he asked me to help him with, last cup of really good coffee, and oh, he made the best organic Peet's, last dance with caregiver Paulina, and last song. I was singing to him when he died. (I'm still not sure it wasn’t his quirky humor that dictated the timing of his departure to be a commentary on my voice.)

His instructions regarding his wishes were precise. Read me Kindness by Naomi Shihab Nye. Read me The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Elder. Sing me Luis Armstrong's It's a Wonderful World. Ever present was his gratitude for the beauty of life.

One Thursday, I showed up for my third day to be with him that week. His hospice caregiver, twenty-five-year-old Paulina, was there. He was clammy, unresponsive, and breathing was ragged. The phone rang. It was his sister in Pennsylvania from whom he'd been estranged for forty years. I told her the situation and offered to put the phone to his ear. Yes. Marc was on his left side, so I put the phone to his right ear. I heard a muffled “I love you” from the sister. A tear slid from his right eye across his nose and plunked onto the pillow. I told the sister he must’ve been waiting to hear that, said thank you and good bye. I told Marc he'd done everything; helped so, so many people with his trauma healing practice, and put all his affairs in order. His estate was going to be of use to the nascent Somatic Experiencing Professional Organization, as he’d designated. All that was left for him to do was look for the light. Another tear slid, plunked.

Paulina and I helped Marc out of his sweaty clothes, washed him down and dressed him up in fresh ones. We turned him onto his right side so he could look out onto the garden where afternoon sun was bathing his beloved redwoods. We didn’t know it would be another last.

I began to sing, "I see leaves of green, red roses too, I see them bloom for me and for you, and I think to myself, what a wonderful world."  Paulina joined in, for a few lines, reading off Marc's worn copy of Satchmo's song. She stopped and just watched him. When I got to the part, "I see friends shakin’ hands, sayin' how do you do, They're really saying, I love you..." Marc stopped breathing. I squeezed Paulina's arm and pointed to the clock 2:23 pm Thursday, January 28. I finished the song with shaky voice and streaming tear, then called his sister back. Marc died exactly one week after his father had died. Both his sisters had double losses to deal with. 

It's those poignant lasts that I'll remember about Marc's death. I've watched several folks lift-off. Most have been so peaceful and easy. Some have been overly violent because heroic measures were tried in hospital to save the dying.

Last week, my writing buddy John went off all chemo and radiation treatment. He's on hospice and palliative care. He's taking one moment at a time. Humor is his tool. He calls himself a Boomer with a Tumor. His exit? Stage Four. Wishing I were closer to LA to be part of his caring team. I know he's got his sisters and maybe a granddaughter who may want to see him one last time, but, and I'm not flattering myself when I say this, I have been present for so many deaths and noted the beauty of each... unique as a birth gone well. I wish I could be there for John. It was good to listen to him by phone today and reflect back his brilliant  sanity and crystalline clarity of what he wants and what he does not want. He's still writing.

Good send-off, my friend. May the light envelop you gently.

Good Bye

Lysdexia Saves the Day?

Maybe because I'm dyslexic, I sometimes think I'm 17 instead of 71. The past two weeks I have been at camp weekends with a busy week in between. Both Mondays after were scheduled in advance with extremely early mornings. For three nights running, both Fridays, both Saturdays, and both Sunday nights, I got five hours of sleep. 

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, said the little engine who could. I'm not five-years- old anymore. Not even seventeen. The accumulated years and wearing out of moving parts is real, but I don't feel, ya know, old. I feel like I can still get down on the floor with the little kiddos, encouraging them to strum my guitar while they sing at campfire or at Stage Night. I feel like I can still run after the bolt-and-run girl of nine who is lighter on her toes than a gazelle even though the aftermath of her brain tumor treatment affects her balance. Or sit with a sibling whose deep feelings finally surface and need to be shared aloud. I feel like I can dance in a deep squat to hold hands with a three year old and spin around with the force of his hand slap on my palm so he feels empowered by his own strength and giggles maniacally.  Camp is such fun. I won't trade it. I won't stop going, but maybe I'll make sure to have Mondays off after a family camp weekend to make time for gardening in the dear forgiving-mama-earth. I need to PULL the damned weeds as if I could pull the cancer out of little bodies and set these dear children back down on their paths in a healthy spot as if cancer never happened. 

I hate cancer.

I love camp.

Today is the first day I've allowed myself to play hooky from a volunteer gig in town so I could do a bit of weeding. It's essential and cathartic. Winds are strong. Plum tree is "snowing" white petals. Humming birds are humming around the newly re-filled red glass bottle as it dances wildly in the wind, their little feet cling tightly.

Bare root roses established in two pots are thriving. Ptuhy, ptuhy, ptuhy, as my mother-in-love used to say. May they continue thriving. I'm eager to get them into the ground this coming Saturday when a friend comes to help design the garden. Fuyu persimmon tree is budding out so beautifully! The feeling inside is total JOY when I see a bare twig of a tree, which I thought for sure I killed, swell overnight along the bareness, sending out leaf buds. The pomegranate tree, too, is leafing out! Ditto the Dogwood. Yippeee for spring. Yippeee for renewal and hope and all the uplift the season brings.

Now, to vote. ugh. That'll bring me back to the deep despair of bleak winter. What are we going to do? Divisions are wider than the Grand Canyon. The democracy feels like crumbly clay, not the rock of Gibraltar. The animosity among tribes is so extreme. 

Hoping Mayor Pete comes round again another year. Styer too. Someone sent an email describing a possible new cabinet that includes all the candidates... Kamala Harris, Bloomberg, and Cory Booker too. It comes close to my vision of the Dems ruling by committee. Instead of loyalty the current unprecedented POTUS demands, ('though he tweeted early on in his tenure as "oval orifice" that his landslide victory was unpresidented, which, unfortunately, many feel we are, without a president, that is), we need to represent all factions in the three-arms of our government that is supposedly of, for, and by the people. 

When in the course of human interactions, one person feels above any other and those others discounted, the power differential is detrimental to the conduct of both. Groveling is not how we were meant to live. Imperious isn't either. Equal regard is my idea. Trite but true: the only time we should look down on anyone is when we're offering him a hand up. 

Hope springs eternal.

Spring, we hope, is also eternally going to come back around.

May it be so.